Friday, April 30, 2010

TURNING PROBLEMS INTO OPPORTUNITIES

TURNING PROBLEMS INTO OPPORTUNITIES

By Don Phillips

Life is full of problems and challenges and we do have options as to how we deal with them. The issue is not whether we will have problems or not, but how we choose to think about and deal with the problems. God wants to help us to turn every problem and challenge into an opportunity for our good, His glory and our emotional and spiritual growth.

The Marriam Webster Collegiate Dictionary defines PROBLEM: as a “dilemma... obstacle, a question raised for inquiry, considerations, or solution. An intricate, unsettled question. A source of perplexity, distress or vexation.”

Problems often presents themselves as a crisis. Crisis means to decide. In medical terms it means the turning point for better or worse in an acute disease or fever. A crisis can be an unstable or crucial time or state of affairs in which a decisive change is about to take place and that change may have a positive or negative outcome.

When we face problems we can try to cope, endure, tolerate, or deny them. Or we can accept them as a challenging opportunity for growth.

The Chinese character for crisis is translated into two words in English: danger and opportunity. When pressures and stresses come our way, we have some choices. Some stressors can be eliminated. We can make a radical decision to totally eliminate and remove the stressor. Other stressors cannot be eliminated but can be modified or adjusted so they are not creating as much stress.

Some stressors cannot be eliminated or modified but we can adjust and modify our responses to the stressors. We can change our attitude toward what is happening to us. Our attitude, or the way we think, will set the stage for how we feel. The way we feel will set the stage for how we behave. The way we feel and behave will have a great influence on our mental and physical health and our relationships.

Surveys conclude that most of the beds in general hospitals are occupied by people who do not think in a healthy, balanced way. They are still operating with a mind and belief system that has been programmed erroneously and negatively. One of the many reasons I enjoy my ministry as a professional psychotherapist, is that I get to help people change their minds. It is a life-changing revelation when people recognize that they do not have to continue to be victims of wrong thinking.

Jesus came to set the captives free and to heal the broken hearted. It is such good news that we can change our whole personality and life-style by letting Jesus help us renew our minds on His truth that will set us free. Paul admonishes us:

1.“Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind” (Romans 12: 2 NAS). Paul further helps us here in Philippians 4: 6- 19 (from several versions and paraphrases).

“Rejoice in the Lord, Celebrate God every day. I mean revel in Him! Be anxious for nothing, don’t fret or worry. Instead of worrying, PRAY. Let petitions and praises shape your worries into prayers. Letting God know your concerns. Before you know it, a sense of God’s wholeness, everything coming together for good, will come and settle you down. It’s wonderful what happens when Christ displaces worry at the center of your life. Not that I speak in regard to need, actually, I don’t have a sense of needing anything personally. I have learned to be quite content whatever my circumstances. I know how to be abased, and I know how to abound. I am just as happy with little as with much, with much as with little. I’ve found the recipe for being happy whether full or hungry, hands full or hands empty. I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. I am ready for anything through the strength of the one who lives within me. I can do anything God asks me to do with the help of Christ who gives me the strength and power. Whatever I have, wherever I am, I can make it through anything in the One who makes me who I am. Not that I seek the gift, but I seek the fruit that abounds to your account. I want you to experience the blessings that come from generosity. And my God shall supply all your need according to His riches in Glory by Christ Jesus. You met my need, and God is going to meet your need. You met ONE need that I have, but God will meet ALL your needs. You gave out of your poverty, but God will supply your needs out of His riches in Glory!”

King David provides helpful insight in Psalm 91: 14-16, 19 (Various versions but mostly THE MESSAGE)

“If you will hold on to me for dear life, says God, I’ll get you out of any trouble. I’ll give you the best of care if you will only get to know me and trust me. Call me and I’ll answer, be at your side in bad times; I’ll rescue you, then throw you a party. With a long life will satisfy you and give you a long drink of my salvation.” “In the multitude of my anxieties within me, your comforts delight my soul. You calmed me down and cheered me up.”

I will use acrostics for PROBLEMS & OPPORTUNITY to help us learn how to turn problems into opportunities.

PROBLEMS:

P. --Persist with pessimistic outlook

R. --Resist change

O. --Overlook opportunity

B. --Block the Holy Spirit

L. --Lack courage

E. --Entangle yourself in the problem.

M.--Misinterpret the facts

S. --Seek answers from man rather than God.

OPPORTUNITY:

O.--Open your heart to God

P.-- Pray with power

P.-- Practice the Presence of God

O.--Old and new brought together

R.--Rejoice always

T.--Tune into the Holy Spirit

U.--Unleash your faith

N.--Nurture and encourage others

I. --Investigate your options

T.--Turn your eyes upon Jesus

Y.--Yoke up with other believers


WHAT IS YOUR PROBLEM? Your problems will never be turned into opportunities as long as these following attitudes continue to be a part of your belief system and life-style.

P. PERSIST WITH PESSIMISTIC OUTLOOK. We can choose how we want to think about our problems. We can allow our minds to dwell on the negative aspects and think with a pessimistic out-look. It is not just a matter of trying to think more positively or optimistically. True positive thinking is a result of dwelling in the presence God. The more time we spend in His presence, in His word and communing with Him, the more we think like He thinks.

It is time for us to seek the Lord and renew our minds and obey His instructions. It is time to aggressively pursue the enemy through prayer and spiritual warfare and take back what he has stolen from us. We must be convinced that God promises to contend with the one who contends with us. “Can the prey be taken from the mighty man, or the captives of a tyrant be rescued? Surely says the Lord, even the captives of the mighty man will be taken away, and the prey of the tyrant will be rescued; For I will contend with the one who contends with you and I will save your children” (Isaiah 49: 24-25 NAS).

The problem is not with God but with us. We are not “contending” with the enemy and overcoming him in our personal lives and that incapacitates us to wage successful spiritual warfare. We are still thinking negatively and fearfully and, as a result, we allow the enemy to take advantage of us, our family, our health, our finances and our possessions.

Rise up and declare in the face of the enemy: “I renew my mind on the truth and refuse to allow Satan and his demons to continue to rob and steal from me and my family. In the name of Jesus I resist you Satan and your negative, pessimistic attacks on my mind. I take authority over you, the authority that God has given me as a believer, and declare that I am free from your lies and deception. I break your stronghold over my life, my family, my finances and my possessions. I take back everything you have stolen from me, and I take them back with dividends. I submit to God and resist you, Satan, and your demons. You must flee now. I claim the blood of Jesus to protect me and my family from your deception and strategy.”

R. RESIST CHANGE: Your problems will persist if you resist change. Often I face the challenge of people who refuse to change. They will say, “This is the way I am and you will just have to learn to live with it.” “You cannot teach old dogs new tricks." This is not true and besides we are not dealing with old dogs but human beings who are capable of adjusting and changing. King Saul resisted change and paid for it with great loss.

0. OVERLOOK OPPORTUNITY: If we focus more on the problem than on God then we will miss the opportunity to see God do a miracle. King Agrippa heard the truth from the mouth of the Apostle Paul but overlooked his opportunity and told Paul that he almost persuaded him to become a Christian.

If we do not keep our focus on God and pray to see things and people the way He sees them, then we will overlook opportunities. We may also miss opportunities to be a vessel that God can pour into so we can then pour out to those in need. Let us be alert for opportunities to grow in His grace.

B. BLOCK THE HOLY SPIRIT: We block and hinder the Holy Spirit when we become so absorbed in the problem that we fail to look to the problem solver, Jesus Christ. The Holy Spirit desires to do so very much for us and through us. We can quench or obstruct the Holy Spirit by our lack of spiritual zeal and dedication.) “Rejoice always, pray without ceasing, in everything give thanks; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you. DO NOT QUENCH THE SPIRIT” (I Thess. 5: 16-19 NAS). (My emphasis)

L. LACK COURAGE: If we lack courage then we are a prime target for Satan to attack us with fear. Satan uses fear more than anything else to defeat us. He knows it works. Jesus told his disciples “Fear not.” God is pouring out His love today as never before and people who receive Him have less fear. God’s love does cast out all fear. Let us allow Him to give us the boldness and courage to do great exploits for Him. “Fear has torment but God’s perfect love casts out all fear” (I John 4: 18 NAS).

E. ENTANGLE YOURSELF IN THE PROBLEM: People can become so analytical, trying to figure out their problem that they suffer from the PARALYSIS OF ANALYSIS.

“And do not be conformed to this world, don’t become so well adjusted to your culture that you fit into it without even thinking. But be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Fix your attention on God. And you will be transformed, and changed from the inside out” (Romans 12: 2 Several versions).

M. MISINTERPRET THE FACTS: Problems are more intensified and defeating when we do not interpret the facts correctly. This can be dangerous and extremely costly. Battles and wars are lost because the one’s in charge misinterprets the facts. Too many people rely more on their feelings than the facts. And even when they get the facts they have a tendency to misinterpret them.

S. SEEK ANSWERS FROM MAN RATHER THAN FROM GOD: Many today are frantically seeking answers from every other source than from God. New Age and occult practices are offering answers and solutions but are, in reality, bringing people into deeper and more complicated problems. It seems that even Christians are exhausting all other sources before they seek God. “I have tried everything else so now I will try God.” “There is a way that seems right to a man but its end is a way of death” (Proverbs 14: 12 NAS).

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Cooperate with God so He can help us turn those problems into opportunities?

PROBLEMS PROVIDE AN OPPORTUNITY for you to cooperate with God so He can turn every problem into something for His glory and for your benefit. YOU CAN OVERCOME PROBLEMS WHEN YOU:

O. OPEN YOUR HEART TO GOD: - When you allow God to love you, it’s easier to open your heart and let Him help you overcome your problems. “Behold, I stand at the door and knock. If anyone hears my voice and opens the door, I will come in to him and dine with him and he with me” (Rev. 3:20 NAS).

P. PRAY WITH POWER: - The Holy Spirit is emphasizing prayer today throughout the world. He is wooing and challenging us to pray, not passively, but with the unction and power of the Holy Spirit. We need power in prayer to successfully overcome our problems and engage in spiritual warfare. The early church prayed with power after the day of Pentecost and so can we after our personal Pentecost.

P. PRACTICE THE PRESENCE OF GOD: - The little booklet called PRACTICING HIS PRESENCE, by Brother Lawrence, has inspired many to wait on God and enjoy His presence all the time. When we practice His presence we can think more clearly and can hear the still small voice of the Holy Spirit giving us direction.

O. OLD AND NEW BROUGHT TOGETHER: - “The Kingdom of heaven is like a householder who brings out of his treasure things new and old” (Matt. 13: 52 NAS). Eugene Peterson translates it this way. “God’s kingdom is like the owner of a general store who can put his hands on anything you need, old or new, exactly when you need it.” God is truly doing a new thing but what He has done in the past is to be joined with what He is doing now. We are not to remove the “Old Landmarks” of our faith.

R. RUN FROM TEMPTATIONS: “Flee youthful lust that war against the soul.” Through God’s power we can run from sexual temptation. “Therefore let him who thinks he stands take heed lest he fall. No temptation has overtaken you but such as is common to man; and God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but with the temptation will provide the way of escape also, that you may be able to endure it” (I Corinthians 10: 12-13 NAS).

T. TUNE INTO THE HOLY SPIRIT:  It is sad and somewhat ironic that, as the Holy Spirit is being poured out today, we can miss “what the Spirit is saying to the churches.” It’s imperative that we adjust and change our thinking and life-style to spend time in His presence so our spirit is in harmony with the Holy Spirit.

U.  UNLEASH YOUR FAITH:    We become powerless when we fail to understand and accept the fact that, “FAITH COMES TO US BECAUSE WE HEAR AND OBEY GOD’S WORD.” Our problems are turned into opportunities when the Word and the Spirit empower our faith to be released.

N. NURTURE AND ENCOURAGE OTHERS:  “If you extend your soul to the hungry and satisfy the afflicted soul, then your light shall dawn in the darkness and your darkness shall be as the noonday sun. The lord shall guide you continually, and satisfy your soul in draught, and strengthen your bones; You shall be like a watered garden, and like a spring of water, whose waters do not fail” (Isaiah 58: 10:11 AMP). Do not miss the opportunity God is giving you to nurture and encourage others. God sets up “divine appointments” for us to speak life into a discouraged, defeated soul. We can also do as David did, we can encourage ourselves in the Lord.

I. INVESTIGATE YOUR OPTION:. When we practice the presence of God we are able to see the BIG picture with more options. When we face problems, it's important to pray, seek counsel and brainstorm or Spirit “storm” the options.

T. TURN YOUR EYES UPON JESUS: “Turn your eyes upon Jesus, look full into His wonderful face and the things of earth will grow strangely dim in the light of His Glory and Grace.” Peter was able to walk on water as long as he kept His eyes upon Jesus. Don’t be distracted by anything that would cause you to turn your eyes away from Jesus. In a world clamoring for your attention, you must pro-actively make time to meet with God.

Y. YOKE UP WITH OTHER BELIEVERS:  The Holy Spirit is breaking down the walls that divide the Body of Christ. Denominational walls. Theological walls. Philosophical walls. Racial and Ethnic walls. The prayer of Jesus is being answered, “That they become one!” We are admonished in Hebrews 10: 24-25 (NKJ). “And let us consider one another in order to stir up love and good works, not forsaking the assembling of ourselves together, as is the manner of some, but exhorting one another, and so much more as you see the day approaching.”

Assembling means more than meeting together, it carries with it the idea of an assembly line where things are being put together. In this current outpouring of the Holy Spirit, God is healing, beautifying and assembling His bride, the church. He is healing our fragmented lives and relationships and “fitting” us together as a healthy body of believers.

In June of 2000 Ruthanne and I took three of our grandchildren to Celebrate Jesus 2000. It was conducted at the TWA Dome in St. Louis Missouri. We enjoyed celebrating and worshiping Jesus with over 10,000 other precious saints who loved Jesus as we did.

I was deeply touched in my spirit to see Catholics, Anglicans, Presbyterians, Baptist, Methodist and many others from various doctrinal persuasions coming together to love and worship Jesus.

The prayer of Jesus, “That they may be one,” is truly being answered throughout the world today as walls between God’s people are coming down.

I pray that you, the reader, will allow the Holy Spirit to remove every prejudice and wall between you and God and between your brother and sister in the body of Christ. I also pray that God will help you to turn every problem or crisis and challenge into an opportunity for your growth and your good and for His glory.

“That’s why we can be sure that every detail in our lives of love for God is worked into something good.” (Romans 8: 28 THE MESSAGE)

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Excerpted from the book: “Healing Broken Lives and Relationships”  You may order book on line: http://www.drdonphillips.com/

Donald L. Phillips Ph.D.    LifeCoachDon@msn.com   or   LifeCoachDon@att.net 
  

Thursday, March 18, 2010

Remembering Donna - To God be the glory!

REMEMBERING DONNA RUELAYNE PHILLIPS REYNAGA
February 21, 1956 ---March 26, 1992

By her father, Don Phillips        October 31, 2009

Recently I was studying in Philippians and was doing some research in my Pulpit Commentaries. I was reading the commentary on Philippians 2: 14-24 page 69. I was reminded of our Daughter Donna when she was one year old. She made some scribbling marks on page 69. I copied that page to make it available to our family because it seemed to be prophetic.

I think it is more prophetic than coincidental that she marked on this particular page. You can read the page for yourself and see how it fit Donna and her love for God. Donna was cheerful, never complained and she was a humble person but very deep in her Christian life. She set a good example for others. She loved to minister to others and encouraged them to go all out for God. These qualities continued to be her life style even as she had to endure sever discomfort and pain in the last three years of her life.

The Pulpit Commentary on Philippians Chapter 2 verses 19-24 further relate to Donna.

“Martyrdom may come soon; if it comes the apostle will welcome it with joy. He refers all things to the Lord and trusts in the Lord. He submits his hopes and desires, even where the spiritual welfare of his converts seemed to be concerned, wholly to the higher will of God. He hopes in the Lord, and is in conscious communion with the Lord. His hopes are guided and quickened by the indwelling Savior. His own happiness and joy are bound up in the spiritual welfare of his converts; like St. John, HE HAD NO GREATER JOY THAN TO SEE HIS CHILDREN WALKING IN THE TRUTH.” This was true of Donna!

The Commentary gives these, ‘Lessons to be learned’ from Philippians 2: 19-21 on page 70. “1. The great aim of the Christian life should be to live wholly in the Lord, in His presence, in the constant effort to please him in all things. 2. Communion of Christians with Christians is one of the greatest helps and comforts in the Christian life. 3. Pray to be absolutely truthful and real; to be, not to seem. 4. A true saint of God can endure isolations. “Who hath the Father and the Son, may be left, but not alone.’”

Donna included these words in a song she wrote; “Now I am a woman, now I am a wife, now I am a mother, giving my life.” What an awesome life she lived and gave away. It has been 18 years since Donna went home to be with Jesus. Her oldest child Abigail is now a pastor’s wife and they have two children. Jeremy recently completed a tour of duty as a Marine in Iraq, he is married and he and his wife Rachel are the Young Adult leaders in their church. Rachel Mejia ( Donna’s third child) is married to Pete. They have a 2 year old, and they are both active in their church. Donna’s youngest Ruth is a college student in San Francisco. God is Faithful to answer Donna’s prayer for her children.


Don Phillips –(408) 363-9547 LifeCoachDon@att.net www.drdonphillips.com

Friday, December 25, 2009

Encouragement for 2010 - Dr. Don's Letter of Encouragement

CHECK LISTS FOR THE COMMITTED CHRISTIAN

As we come to end of 2009 it is time to examine where we have been and where God wants us to go as we move into 2010. My prayer and motto for 2010 is: “Father, in 2010, help me to be more like Jesus than I have been.”

In this letter of encouragement I hope to help you become more aware of the power of the Holy Spirit to help us live a more successful Kingdom life-style. Satan is on an all out attack against the Christian and the family. He will tempt us to lower our morals, values and ethics to achieve self-serving goals. May God help us to grow daily in a deeper love for God and others and depending the Holy Spirit to live a victorious Christian life-style.

Prayerfully examine your life in the light of these check-lists. Use the Spirit-controlled check list to stay focused on the one who loves us more than we know. Here are some Scriptures to mediate on as you allow the Holy Spirit to adjust your belief system and your life-style.

Galatians 3: 3 (NLT) “How foolish can you be? After starting your Christian lives in the Spirit, why are you now trying to become perfect (mature) by your own human effort?”

I Thessalonians 5:23, 24 (NLT) “Now may the God of peace make you holy in every way, and may your whole spirit, soul and body be kept blameless until our Lord comes again. God will make this happen, for He who calls you is faithful.”

SOULISH CHRISTIAN DEFINED:

• He does not draw upon the Holy Spirit for his power.

• He leans upon self-power.

• He follows the dictates of his pleasures and delights

• He uses natural wisdom to attempt God’s work.

• His everyday existence is governed by his carnal nature.

• He is excessive in his curiosity.

• He emphasizes his superiority in clothing, speech and deed.

• He desires to shock people into recognizing how smart he is.

• His only joy comes when his selfish wishes are satisfied.

• He likes to argue and debate.

• He holds tenaciously to his minute opinions.

• He assumes an attitude of self-righteousness.

• He is easily assaulted by evil spirits.

• His thinking is easily becomes confused.

• His emotion’s vacillates very quickly.

• He is overly-sensitive and interprets things as aimed at him

• When neglected or overlooked he becomes angry.

• He is filled with pride.

• He never honestly seeks the will of God.

• He labors for the Lord with a mind teeming with schemes and plans.

• He mainly depends on feelings.

• He is unable to maintain a calm spirit. Confusion causes inner unrest.

• He is easily discouraged.

• He is an expert in finding fault and quick to criticize.

• He is slow to forgive.

• He has a tendency to be hasty and not wait on god.

• He acts from impulse rather that principle.

• He is guided by sudden thoughts which flash through his mind.

• He cannot rely entirely on God.

• He puts his attention more on the task than God.

• He can only reach another’s soul and not his spirit.

• He delights in high-sounding, spectacular words and phrases.

• He wants to impress people with his knowledge.

• He longs to be seen and seeks prominent positions.

• He loves to use spiritual phraseology.

• He is self-satisfied.

• He uses his gifts as personal possessions to promote himself.

• He lives for the moment with little thought to sacrifice for the future.

• He is happiest when people recognize his “greatness”.

• He says, “GLORY TO GOD.......AND TO ME.”
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THE SPIRIT-CONTROLLED CHRISTIAN DEFINED:

• He draws upon the Holy Spirit to do the work of ministry.

• He leans upon the Holy Spirit’s power.

• He puts aside his own pleasures and desires to please the Father.

• He uses God’s wisdom to attempt God’s work.

• His everyday existence is governed the Holy Spirit.

• His joy comes directly from God, not from circumstances around him.

• He allows the Holy Spirit to use him to advance the Kingdom of God.

• He exalts God by his life-style, speech, and clothing.

• He desires to point people to God and His greatness, not to himself.

• He avoids arguments and debates.

• He is flexible and teachable.

• He knows his righteousness t comes through the blood of Jesus.

• He is not easily assaulted by evil spirits.

• His thinking is saturated with the Mind of Christ.

• His emotions are stable because his mind is being renewed daily.

• He is not overly-sensitive because his mind is fixed on God.

• When over-looked its okay because he is “crucified with Christ”.

• He is filled with humility

• He honestly seeks the will of God.

• He serves the Lord with heart open to receive instructions from God.

• He mainly depends on the prompting of the Holy Spirit.

• He maintains a calm spirit and nothing disturbs his peace.

• He is not easily discouraged

• He is an expert in finding the good in people.

• He speaks the truth in love.

• He is quick to forgive.

• He waits on God and is not hasty.

• He acts on God’s principles rather than from impulse.

• He is not guided by sudden thoughts

• He relies entirely on God.

• He puts more attention on God rather than the task itself.

• He is able to reach another’s spirit.

• He refrains from using words or phrases that detract from God.

• He has no desire to impress people with himself.

• He seeks to promote Christ rather than himself.

• He is satisfied when God is exalted.

• He uses the gifts God gives him to promote the Kingdom of God.

• He maintains the presence of God even if it requires sacrifice.

• He is happiest when people recognize Christ in him.

• He says, “GLORY TO GOD AND TO HIM ALONE”

May God help us all to yield and cooperate with the Holy Spirit so we can become more like we were created to be. May Jesus be free to express Himself through us.
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Sunday, September 6, 2009

WHAT HURTING PEOPLE NEED

WHAT HURTING PEOPLE NEED
By Don Phillips

In this blog and the ones following I will share some of the tools and principles that I have used in counseling for the past 38 years. I will try to keep my blogs brief and to the point.

As I face the remaining years of my life, I am praying that God will use me to direct many more people to Him as the ultimate and only Source for healing and growth. I know that I am only a resource to direct them to the Source. God has called me to be an instrument of His healing power to help heal lives and relationships and to encourage pastors and church leaders. I hope to help my dear brothers and sisters to better counsel people. I will do this through my blogs.

I know that many of you, like me, are inundated with information. I will make my blogs as brief and helpful as possible. Here is my first blog:

WHAT ARE HURTING PEOPLE LOOKING FOR?
My prayer and passion as I minister to hurting people: “Father, as I counsel people, help me to be so yielded to You and so dependent on the power of the Holy Spirit, that more of you will flow out of me than myself.”
Deep in the heart of the hurting people, who come to us for help, there is a cry coming from their pain that may sound like this:

“When I struggle with life, I don’t want you to apply some psychological principles to my life. I want a wise, spiritual saint who can peer into my soul and direct me, through all that’s there, TOWARD GOD.”
Those who are hurting need someone to help them who know how to yield to the Holy Spirit and meet them where they are with the compassion and power of Jesus Christ, the Healer. They need someone who recognizes that they themselves are not the source of help but just a resource to direct them to the SOURCE. Will that someone be you?

Here are some of my favorite Scriptures relating to counseling:
“..and so nothing I said could have impressed you or anyone else. But the Message came through anyway. God’s Spirit and God’s power did it, which made it clear that your life of faith is a response to God’s power, not to some fancy mental or emotional footwork by me or anyone else.” (I Corinthians 2: 4, 5 - The Message)

“So we tell others about Christ, warning everyone and teaching everyone with all the wisdom God has given us. We want to present them to God, perfect in their relationship to Christ. That’s why I work and struggle so hard, depending on Christ’s mighty power that works within me.” (Col. 1: 28, 29 – NLT)

"The Lord GOD has given me the tongue of the learned, that I should know how to speak a word in season to him who is weary. He awakens me morning by morning; He awakens my ear to hear as the learned" (Isaiah 50:4).

Here are some powerful quotes from two of my favorite mentors:

“In a spiritual community, people reach deep places in each other’s hearts that are not easily reached. They openly express love and reveal fear, even though they feel so unaccustomed to that level of intimacy. If anything good happens in our conversations with each other, it will have more to do with who we are in Christ than what we say or do. It has more to do with whether I listen to and follow the Holy Spirit.” Larry Crabb

“Our life is full of brokenness– broken relationships, broken promises, broken expectations. How can we live with brokenness without becoming bitter and resentful except by returning again and again to God’s presence in our lives?” Henri Nouwen

May God help us all to be so intimate with Him that rivers of wisdom and the power of the Holy Spirit will flow through us to those who need healing, encouragement and restoration.

In future blogs I will provide the reader with some tools and principles that God has used in my ministry to bring healing to broken lives and relationships. Please feel free to respond to me at the email address below and ask questions.
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Sunday, January 18, 2009

Cross Over The Bridge

GOING FROM BRIDGE “NOWHERE”
TO BRIDGE “SOMEWHERE”
By Don Phillips

During the recent presidential campaign there was much criticism about the Alaskan bridge that was built to “nowhere.” Many people today are on a BRIDGE TO NOWHERE! They are desperately trying to find fulfillment and success that will bring deep joy and contentment. In this article I hope to help us see that God has provided a BRIDGE TO SOMEHWERE!

A few times lately God is waking me up at 2:00 AM with one-liners ringing in my heart. Recently he woke me with these words: “MAKE ROOM FOR DADDY!” I know that “Daddy, Papa, Abba God wants us to make room for Him.

This morning January 16, 2009, at 2:00 AM, these words were impacting my mind and spirit; “BRIDGE TO SOMEWHERE,” and “CROSS OVER THE BRIDGE!” After getting up and spending an hour in prayer and the Word, I sat down and began typing these thoughts on my laptop. As I sit here typing, the Holy Spirit is filling my mind and heart with some things I feel He wants me to share with you. He has a destiny for each of and He has provided the way and provisions for us to get there. Jesus is the way (the bridge) to get us to our destiny. I appreciate the gospel tract that shows a gulf or canyon between man and God and Jesus is the bridge, in the form of a cross, to lead us to the Father.

Jesus Christ is truly the Bridge that leads us God and all He has for us. Jesus is the DOOR to eternal life but many stop at the DOOR and don’t go any farther. Jesus is not only the WAY but He is also the TRUTH and the LIFE! May God help us to enter into the full abundant life He has for each of us. We need to CROSS OVER the bridge but not take up residence on it.
In the mid-60’s we lived on the campus of Golden Gate Baptist Seminary in beautiful Mill Valley north of San Francisco. There were times when we would be driving home across the Golden Gate Bridge, and the fog would be so thick we could hardly see. As we passed through Waldo Tunnel into Marin County, we were blessed with a beautiful view of a sun bathed scenic Sausalito and Mill Valley. I often thought this is a beautiful word picture of going from darkness to light, from chaos to order, from death to life, and from sadness to Joy.

In my book, HEALING BROKEN LIVES AND RELATIONSHIPS, I relate a prophetic word spoken over me in 1980 through Ernest Gentile. He prophetically saw this large crevice with people on either side trying to build relationships. They were getting frustrated because the bridge of relationship they were trying to build kept falling down. He saw a husband on one side and his wife on the other side of the crevice trying to relate to one another. He saw parents on one side and their children on the other sided being frustrated because they couldn’t seem to connect. He also saw members of the body of Christ trying to build bridges of relationship but to no avail.

Then Ernest saw me at one end of the crevice on my hands and needs, crawling into the open crevice. As I was crawling, I was praying and counseling and the crevice was closing behind me causing the disconnected parties to come together. He said, “Don, I see you as a GIANT ZIPPER.” When I heard those words, I wept because the Lord has commissioned me to be a reconciler. He has called me and anointed me to help reconcile people to God and each other.

When the word came to me; CROSS OVER THE BRIDGE, I remembered that in the 1950’s Sandy Patti sang the song,“Cross over the bridge.” Here are the lyrics, see if you can pick out the spiritual significance of these words.

CROSS OVER THE BRIDGE Sung by Patti Page (Written by: Bennie Benjamin and George Weiss)

If you're a guy who's had a gal
In each and every port
And you've forgot the rules of love
That life has always taught
And if you broke as many hearts
As ripples in a stream
Well, brother, here's the only way
That you can be redeemed
Cross over the bridge


If you have built a boat
To take you to the greener side
And if the boat is built
Of ev'ry lie you ever lied
You'll never reach the Promised Land of love I guarantee
'Cause lies cannot hold water
And you'll sink into the sea

I know it isn't easy
To resist temptation's call
But think of how your broken heart
Will hurt you when you fall'
Cause some day you will find
That you are hopelessly in love
And she'll belong to someone else
As sure as stars above
Cross over the bridge

Cross over the bridge
Change your reckless way of livin'
Cross over the bridge
Leave your fickle past behind you
And true romance will find you
Brother, cross over the bridge
Cross over the bridge

Let me glean a few things from these lyrics that the Holy Spirit may use to convey some things for our serious consideration.

If you're a guy who's had a gal In each and every port. And you've forgot the rules of love,that life has always taught. And if you broke as many hearts as ripples in a stream. Well, brother, here's the only way that you can be redeemed.

Ø Are you searching for love in the wrong places? In the pursuit of love and deep satisfaction have you broken the heart of God and those who love you? Do you know the “rules of love?” God so loved you that Jesus died to make a way for all of us to know and experience His unconditional love. When we repent of sin and invite Christ to be our Savior and Lord, we learn how to love ourselves and others with His kind of love.

Ø “Well brother, here’s the only way that you can be redeemed.” We must CROSS OVER THE BRIDGE JESUS CHRIST. As believers in Jesus, we know that Jesus is the ONLY way to be redeemed, to be purchased and freed from slavery to sin. Redemption happens through repentance, and by allowing the blood of Jesus to cleanse us and then we will be able to MAKE ROOM FOR DADDY GOD.

If you have built a boat to take you to the greener side and if the boat is built of ev'ry lie you ever lied, you'll never reach the Promised Land of love,I guarantee'Cause lies cannot hold water and you'll sink into the sea.

Ø In your pursuit of deep satisfying love, have you tried to build your own boat to get you there? Was your boat built on lies and manipulation to get you to what you believe is a “greener side.” If you try to get there any other way but God’s way you will never arrive at the PROMISED LAND OF LOVE. You will drown in the waters of despair and hopelessness, I GUARANTEE,

I know it isn't easy to resist temptation's call, but think of how your broken heart will hurt you when you fall.'Some day you will find that you are hopelessly in love and she'll belong to someone else as sure as stars above.
Ø God knows it is not easy, but He makes it possible for us to RESIST TEMPATION’S CALL.

Ø Think and consider the seriousness of your decisions to find love your way. Don’t let the enemy of your soul, break your heart and the heart of those you love and cause you to fall. Don’t waste your life by pursuing love in the wrong places. If you don’t let God love you into a relationship with Him then you will never find the kind of love that meets your deepest need for love.

Cross over the bridge. Cross over the bridge. Change your reckless way of livin', Cross over the bridge. Leave your fickle past behind you and true romance will find you. Brother, cross over the bridge. Cross over the bridge

Ø If you haven’t found true love in Christ, then it is time change your mind and repent and leave your reckless way of living. Please don’t continue living a confused and vacillating life, Cross over the Bridge called JESUS!

Ø The Holy Spirit is encouraging us to CROSS OVER THE BRIDGE (JESUS) AND CONNECT WITH A LOVING GOD WHO WILL GIVE YOU LOVE, PEACE AND JOY BEYOND MEASURE. The Holy Spirit also wants to help us to connect better with each other. WILL YOU YIELD TO THE HOLY SPIRIT AND LET HIM DO THAT?

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